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So, when you take a break, it should last at least twenty minutes because it will take that long before your body physiologically calms down. 226 230 Gottman Relationship Coach: How to Make Your Relationship Work, The Art and Science of Love - Virtual Events, 4 Reasons New Parents Struggle and How to Overcome Them, Emotion Coaching: The Heart of Parenting Online, Lessons in Love Gottman Seven Principles for Singles (April 2023). 143 The Four Horsemen & Their Antidotes Criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling. White
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