This answer was collected from MuftiOnline.co.za, where the questions have been answered by Mufti Zakaria Makada (Hafizahullah), who is currently a senior lecturer in the science of Hadith and Fiqh at Madrasah Taleemuddeen, Isipingo Beach, South Africa. - IslamQA Answered by: Aalimah Nasima Umm Hamza Question: Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullah! Assalaamu alaykum. Because you are not in control of what your body does, usually. Answer: In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful and Compassionate, You are only obliged to make-up prayers if you are not certain or reasonably sure that you experienced a wet-dream and did not perform the ritual bath. So this might be confusing for many sisters, so I suggest a post is written about it to clear things up. And some women need a detailed answer! Yesterday night, I had thought about having a wet dream before I slept but when I woke up I think that I had a wet dream but I cant remember the dream but I know I felt somehow and I feel my leg was weak but I was having doubt if it was due to wet dream or because I was startled by the alarm that woke me up. In the narration of Al-Bukhari it states that he (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) then turned aside and washed his legs. And what about if a man passes in front of a woman? Allahu alam but apparently the interpretation is that only if the dream resulted in orgasm (and not just a dream). The question of womens presence cutting off prayer is one issue that Sayyida Aisha (ra) disputed, and her refutation of it is noted in Sahih Bukhari: The things which annul the prayers were mentioned before me. Wet dreams are as normal for women as they are for men. This is the view of the Shaafii School. Any bad habit can become addicting and should be limited. but why not? But I was not sure what breaks wudu.. because i only learned the basic things that break wudu such as bleeding, vomitting, sleeping, and gas stool or urine coming out from the ends of body. Answer: Vaginal discharge does not necessitate ghusl, no problems here. Usually, it is only pre-fluid (mazi) and not semen suffering from such situations. i am in condition that i feel my self as a patient. Copyright IslamWeb 2023. 4. What I worry about is, as we lie down during a nap, especially when its short, may be the sexual discharge is gathered inside but didnt flow out yet as it happens in standing position and if we urinate it will flow out with urine and we will never see/feel it and will think we dont need a ghusl while we actually need it. Subhanak Allah wa bi Hamdika wa tabarak Asmuka wa taala jaduka wa la ilaha ghayruk. He said, He does not have to do ghusl.. An exploration of the frailty and complexity of human nature. How can you agree with someones opinion over RasoolAllaah sallallhu alayhee wsalam? I seriously havent heard this word orgasm before, i read your entire article and some how i understood that it means that after a wet dream if you feel tickling or what can we say a satisfied feeling after touching your private parts.. that is orgasm? This is not a very accurate statement. It does not store any personal data. It was reported from Abd-Allaah ibn al-Saamit that Abu Dharr said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: If any one of you stands up to pray, then he has a sutrah [an item placed in front of a praying person as a screen] if he has something the height of the back of a saddle in front of him. We also use third-party cookies that help us analyze and understand how you use this website. (islam-qa.com). So should i do ghusl anywayz in cases like these although in my heart i am more sure that it is frm sprinkling.JAzakAllahu kahirnWalaikum aslam wr wb. Perhaps if a person indulges in sexual thoughts, it may/can cause an ejaculation and he/she will have to make ghusal. narrated by al-Bukhaari(510) and Muslim (507). There is no mention that a man passing in front of a woman (or another man) cuts off their prayer, however, passing in front of a person who is praying in general is not something to be taken lightly, as the Prophet peace be upon him said: If the one who passes in front of one who is praying knew what (sin) he incurs, he would realize that waiting for forty is better than passing in front of him. Abul-Nadr said: I do not know whether he said forty days, or months, or years. The sooner the betterbut definitely before praying or any other acts of worship, Salam I am fortunate that your passions include sharing this material as I have benefitted from it. Does Stimulation and Orgasm Necessitate Ghusl and Break the Fast? It covers all aspects of life. Al-Liqa al-Shahri (37/25) . i dont know why its happening like this uncontrollably for a whole week now and i dont know weather to go to doctors or what to do. 2. Maybe you can benefit form the following advice form sister Haleh. If i dont indulge in these thoughts but it randomly pops into my head and i discharge is my wudu invalid? Here is that hadith for those who are interested: Narrated by Khawlah Bint Hakeem, who asked the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) if a woman should make ghusl when she has a sexual dream, he (peace be upon him) said: No ghusl on her unless she has a discharge, similarly there is not ghusl on the man unless he ejaculates. (Related by Ahmad, Al-Nasai, Ibn Majah, and Ibn Abi Shaybah). but when she wakes up and no wetness then thats fine although its better to perform ghusl. 7. Um Reem, Is masturbation haraam? What can i do if i have wet dreams durin fastin.does it in anyway affect my fast.jazak Allahu khairan. The sutrah can be anything that is at least a couple of feet in height, such as a tree, a pole, a chair, a wall, or any other object can be used. 3. Many people forget about the small parts of the body. JazakAllah khair sister.thank u sister for solving my problem.after these dreams i felt very guilty n blamed myself. 3.WHAT is the ruling over discharge secreted without sexual passion like that by cold or diseaseh Yup, the small parts you mentioned I take care of it. Although both position 2 & 3 makes it very clear that it must be done without involving anything haram, like the usage of porn etc. i dont know how just by thinking about sex a person has orgasmbut if someone does then he/she has to make ghusal. 5. Firstly: If a man feels the semen moving when he feels desire without intercourse, and he holds his penis and nothing comes out, then he does not have to do ghusl according to the majority of scholars; this is unlike the well known view of Ahmad, may Allaah have mercy on him. please help. The Hanafi jurists cite a particular but relevant ruling that if a woman has a wet dream and during the dream, she felt her desires being fulfilled and experiences the same pleasure of sexual climax (like orgasm) but did not ejaculate then she will not have to do ghusl. will b thankful to you, Um reem sis Assalamoalikum!! Just because . Is this true? Too many parents shy away from giving their children advice on puberty. Can you please clarify? Key Principles Relating to Certainty, Doubt, and Baseless Misgivings (Waswasa), And Allah knows best. Sister Reem, i sometimes have an orgasm during sleep but when i wake up there is no wetness in my undergarments, do i still have to perform ghusl?Since in the Hadith Prophet Mohammad(pbuh)said if you see the discharge then perform ghusl ,if you dont see then there is no ghusl. I googled it and got sooo much useful information but since I am a Muslim I cannot rely on western information. Signing a contract which contains a payment clause on interest. I saw a wet dream but I wasnt doing anything wrong in my dream. So plz tell me it is a wet dream or not reply me today plz as soon as possible women) dogs. . I understand its impure, but what am I to do if I cannot control it, the thoughts arise randomly and unannounced, and it happens so often? These cookies help provide information on metrics the number of visitors, bounce rate, traffic source, etc. Assalamu alaikum You can break the ice and start educating them BUT if they are already teenagers then it will be a bit complicated to connect with thembut still possible inshaAllah, and Allah knows best. If i dont indulge in these thoughts but it randomly pops into my head and i discharge is my wudu invalid? What if they are accompanied with pressure on chest when you cant move and scary dreams. Qn 2; if in your dream you never reached climax but there had been some amount of discharge when you woke up does this require ghusl? Or should I wait till my menstraul cycle finishes then have have shower to get rid of the state? i need to know if i is normal or i need to consult to doctor? Firstly, I want to thank you for the quality of the thought provoking content. :o) And yes, we can get obsessive at times, and that is also not good. Aisha (ra) said: The Messenger of Allaah, sallallahu alihi wasalam, was asked about a man who notices some wetness but does not remember having a wet dream. He says that all of the apparent Shawahid in this regard are weak. then go on to the Islamic perspective and rulings, etc. even the doctors. So how about when Allaah is Watching your every move, And the angels who are with you recording everything youve written to be questioned about on the Day of Judgement? I would like to know the rights of the mother and the wife, so that I can maintain a balance in the family. I hope it clarifies. and only washed her area and made wudu. Islamic law necessitates a ghusl following such an event and if a wet dream occurs while fasting it does not break the fast. Umm Hamzah, take a look at Muslimah guide to puberty for tips on how to talk to your daughters about puberty. She must make dua to Allah to protect her and her marriage. Certain Physiological and psychological aspects of our environment actually aid or increase the frequency amongst unmarried men and women, and unfortunately now amongst married men and women. I dont know how reliable the internet is but i read a hadith somewhere but I cant remeber the exact words that the prophet said if you see your discharge is thin and yellow. How do they look, what is their composition to differ them? I would recommend that if you know Arabic that you look at Sheikh Al-Albanis takhreej of this hadith in his Silsila Sahiha under hadith # 2863, his commentary on it might be of benefit inshaAllah. If they are going to a public school, you should, if not must, educate them around the same time the sex-ed class is given to childreni believe it is 3rd grade, I started talking to my daughter about such issues right when she turned 8. 1. Asalam u alykum, i had a personal question. Allahu alam, UmmA from what I know is wet dream occurs during sleep, that is the general definition. How would a woman or a man know if they had an orgasm during their sleep if they had no discharge? The view which we adopt here at Islamweb is that whoever doubts about the discharges whether it is Maniyy or otherwise chooses one of the two and applies the ruling relevant to it. Does a Wet Dream Invalidate Your Fast? - Islam Question & Answer What is the ruling of taking a loan from the bank? I advise all of the brothers and sisters reading this, if you have a question, go to islamqaDOTcom and type in keywords of your question, 9 times out of 10, you will find your answer inshaAllaah. 4. If she did have an orgasm, it will automatically imply the sexual discharge too. Pingback: Parenting Series | Part VIII: Sexual Activities Beyond the Norm What Should We Teach Our Teens | The Sex In Islam. The website is no longer in existence. It depends on how old they are, but if they are in their teens, then just start talking about it, of course start with an intro on how humans grow and our bodies change, and hormones, etc. Whats so hard about taking a shower? Thanks for posting this, very helpful! Im finding it difficult to pray because Im worried that these unwanted thoughts will come into my head. Or even more conveniently, there is material available on the internet. Regular vaginal discharge has left many sisters confused as to whether a) it is najis (impure) therefore requiring her to wash off undergarments and legs b) it breaks one's wudu . I will tell you a time i had a bad dream. There was a time when I was unmarried, in college(with fitna EVERYWHERE especially during summer sessions), and abstaining from masturbationthese 3 factors increased the frequency of my wet dreams to at times 3 times a night. Brother, the fact that you are having wet dreams (assuming you are not married yet) means you are abstaining from big and detrimental sins of zina and masturbation (MOST cases, a person who does those shameful things doesnt have the physiologic need for a wet dream). So both, her narration and the one stating that a woman passing in front of a man cuts off his prayers, both these narrations are authentic, so the scholars take them both into consideration when making the ruling, and they say that if the woman passes in front of him then that cuts off his prayer, but if she is like Aisha was in the bed in front of him, then her presence does not cut off his prayer. 6. I have always been smaller and shorter compared to other girls growing up, slower in getting menstrual cycle etc and just generally age and grow slower compared to people my age. I read on a website that if a woman has sexual thoughts and discharges then her wudu becomes invalid. ejaculation while awake by indulging in sexual thoughts is voluntarily and CAN be controlled by seeking Allahs protection, distracting thoughts with something positive, not indulging in actions that might lead to sexual thoughts like movies, magazines, websites etc. It is best that a daughter hears and learns this information directly from her own mother rather than from someone else educating her in school or in the streets. if that action made you feel sexually satisfied, then most likely you did have an orgasmand it was mastrubation. It was nice and a very open talk since the one giving the lecture was a female herself. After that he performed wudu like that for prayer. It is crucial that every parent have this talk with their kids, both boys and girls, and inform them about these things and the Islamic rulings on them. a mans prayer is cut off when a woman who has gotten her menstruation passes in front of him. Please give me answers and let me be out of my miseries =(Im serious I feel very bad and most of the websites i studied from make me feel like i am a bad muslim. How can one interpret dreams given by Allah? Some people believe that wet dreams will reduce a man's sperm count. assalaam alaikum but orgasm is more than just the vaginal throbbing. How do you guys feel after a wet dream? | NoFap thats why people are asking anonymously, some sisters wh have wet dreams could be in distress and too shy to ask anyone thats why we need posts like this educateing sisters so that it doesnt become taboo. Been wanting to talk to the children but have no idea how to start. Discharge can be more wet or more dry, and be more or less thick or viscous. If there was no discharge does it require ghusl? ..its been few days that Ive noticed Im getting wet dreamsIm also a med student but am totally confused bout what shariah have for itshould weve to do ghusl? [Ibn Abidin, Radd al-Muhtar], Upon remembering a wet dream and finding wetness upon yourself, a ritual bath (ghusl) is obligatory for you to perform in order to pray except if you are sure that this wetness is merely a sweat or post urinal fluid (wadi). 4. and the other thing is if a girl watching a movie or any romantic video cause her orgasm but she dont feel wet. They asked with the utmost modesty with Umm Sulaym beginning with Allah is not too shy to tell us the truth and Umm Salamah covering her face when asking RasoolAllaah sallallhu alayhee wsalam, who was her husband, her brief question?? We perceive that you are affected with some sort of Waswaas (devilish whisperings/obsessive doubts), so we advise you to ignore them and not pay any attention to them. Still have to take bath? And what about if a man passes in front of a woman? This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. 2:- Avoid sleeping on your stomach. How do I consider this wetness now, as something that breaks wudu only or a discharge after ejaculation that I dont remember happening? For ghusl, Allah says in the Quran If you are in a state of ceremonial impurity, bathe your whole body (Al-maida 6) every part MUST be wet, not leaving out inside your earlobes, belly button, crevices, etc. If it is only from sexual excitement then wudu should suffice. Does a woman have to do ghusl if she has an erotic dream? If you wake up from sleep and you find wetness, even if it is just Mathy (pre-seminal fluid)as you said, and you remember having a wet dream, then you are obliged to perform Ghusl according to the Hanafi school of jurisprudence. I dont know what to do because I feel I am constantly going to the bathroom and cleaning myself, so much so that I change my pad at least two to three times a day. They dont even need to speak to them about sex, but just puberty and the changes their child is going through. is that considered masturbation even if i never rubbed or inserted anything into my vagina. As soon as you get the thought make a very powerful Dua- something like: grant me and the muslim ummah the highest level of Jannah, forgive the sins of all previous, present and future Muslims. With regards to your statement there is no haya in issues concerning the deen, Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: Shyness is part of faith. So shyness in religion is part of faith, but when someone says There is no shyness in religion, what he means is that there is no shyness in matters of religion, i.e., in asking about something concerning which one may feel shy. [Ala al-Din Abidin, al-Hadiyya al-Alaiyya], Allah, Most High, says: And if you are in a state of full impurity, then take a full bath. [Quran, 5:6], And Allah knows best. All rights reserved. the time of that prayer) elapses. If someone had sex with partner night time and morning time before shower get her periods is it necessary to take shower or its ok not to take shower? 3. How does knowing what it feels like to have a orgasm affect your salah? Salam! By the way, both men and women should use a sutrah when praying, and the same applies to women too, that if a woman passes in front of another woman who is praying, then she cuts off her prayer as well, and this is not limited to men., Just wondering if theres a hadith to this? These cookies help provide information on metrics the number of visitors, bounce rate, traffic source, etc. And Allah knows best. Your email address will not be published. A mothers education is sincere, pure, and free of any vulgarity. 2. He began searching far and wide for answers to the fundamental questions of life and was disappointed at the answers he found. By educating them not only you will fulfill your responsibility but you will also open a door of communication with your daughters, inshaAllah. Source: Assalamu Alaikum, I have felt a bit guilty about this. It is better to educate her once the signs of puberty start appearing in her. What Should a Virgin Girl Do after a Wet Dream? Please keep in mind that this fatwa is in answer to a mans question. There is no hadith or Quranic verse prohibiting masturbation, but one of my old Islamic studies and Quran teachers said it is a bad habit. 3. Wet Dreams: What They Are & What They Mean - health.com I told my husband and he thinks it may be an infection. Sister, dont misunderstand this to mean there should be no shyness when asking about religious matters. If one is really not sure what it is at all then one must perform the bath as the Hanafi school emphasises extreme caution in this issue, and rightly so for he that has no purification has no prayer and he that has no prayer has nothing. Oh, dont get me started on the Orthodox Jews, Amad. Sex and the Ummah Series | New Initiative: Like a Garment | Yasir Qadhi, Dealing With Homosexual Urges: Yasir Qadhi to Muslim Student. Initial vaginal throbbing sensation can be felt by thinking about sex, foreplaying etc. I tried smelling it too but I dont think I detect any smell from it has Im not even what kind of smell Im searching for. Foremost I wanted to instil in them, empathy and compassion. I have OCD and doubts if I have a wet dream, I didnt see any man in my dream or any such just saw a rubbing of sorts in my parts. So is it necessary to do ghusal?? but recently stoped after finding out. If you do not find any maniy on your body or clothes, then you do not have to inspect the urethral sphincter; rather this is something that will provoke and strengthen waswasah [persistent intrusive thoughts]. It is not as simple to explain the orgasm in words. A brief summary of the requirements for the Ghusl follow. . Finding Peace at Home: Dua for Family Harmony, 9 Years of Marriage: My Struggle with Abuse and Infidelity, Maghrib time entering while one is performing Asr Salaah, Making qadha for Salaah missed intentionally, Circling money around the head for protection, Placing a book with the name of Allah on the floor. Asalam o alaikum. And when the children among you come to puberty (al-hilm) [al-Noor 24:59]. Secondly, there is no haya in issues concerning the deen. I cant imagine anyone in their right mind saying yes. Is it permissible to watch recorded videos of female teachers, as part of an online course, during Islamic fasting? and Allah knows best, i am sort of confused it is actually a huge problem if we get such things in our dream and have to take a shower on daly basis especially in Pakistans chilling weather. When a person wakes up and has had an erotic dream, but he does not find any wetness on his clothes, then he does not have to do ghusl, according to scholarly consensus, because, When a person wakes up and has had an erotic dream, but he does not find any wetness on his clothes, then he does not have to do ghusl, according to scholarly consensus, because. It could be that a woman, as we discussed in the article and in QA with sh. Al-Bahr Ar-Raa'iq reads: We donot say that Ghusl is obligatory because of Mathy, butbecause Maniyy becomes thin after a long period and looks just like Mathy but it is not really Mathy; this is regarding when some sleeping wakes up and finds wetness., However, the Hanbali and the Maaliki schools of jurisprudence hold that if a person knows that it is Mathy, then he is not obliged to perform Ghusl.
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